Seating Arrangements

It matters (a lot) to some people where they sit and with whom when attending any gathering.  Have you ever thought of declining an invitation to a party because you were dreading the seating arrangement?

How about the person who is assigned to allocate seats?  It must be daunting because the person in charge of this task gets the most flak if perceived to be wrong. (my sympathies😊)

Notwithstanding all its positive intentions, seating arrangements can be alienating for some. If you’re seated with people you barely know, you’ll have to worry about what to talk about and it might turn awkward if one is unable to maintain a free-flowing conversation.

When a group of  friends is made to seat together and you’re not with yours,  the thought of being treated unfairly kicks in.

Seating arrangements can also be deemed by others as degrading. When colleagues are seated with VIP’s and at the front, you, who are seated with strangers at the back or in one corner, would perceive it as being undervalued. Would you attend similar events again?

For those who are not bothered about seating arrangements, they’d appreciate the  idea that they ought to get know more about other people. They can worry about who they are going to sit next to but at the same time, they get excited in anticipation.  They are aware that they have to adapt and just look forward to that part of the party when the music starts and everyone abandons their seats with pleasure to freely mingle with anyone. That part of the party where the goers just let their hair down.

Well, sod the seating. Just be yourself and have fun,

My Morning Calm (weekly photo challenge: Silence)

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/2018/01/17/silence-2/

One of the things I always look forward to whenever I visit my hometown is the early morning walk that leads to this river on a mountain. It is a breathtaking retreat from a busy life miles away. The silence is beautifully broken by the steady flow of the water which brings about a certain calmness to the mind and readiness to face a new day.

The Kind of Writer I Am

My blog has been idle for some time now. It made me think of the reasons why. Thus, discovering who I might be as a writer/blogger.

Time constraints? It is a cliche but I simply lack the time. It was when I took a break from work that I got interested in blogging. My mind was full of ideas and and I have had more time then to put them into writing.

Being back to work full-time has made me just want to come home at the end of every shift and rest and relax. Oh, yes. I’ve tried to concentrate and write after work or on my days off. I have always managed a few sentences until I felt ‘I just wanna laze out as I’ve got work (again) tomorrow’.

So to be able to write, I need THE time…enough time.

Writer’s block? It shouldn’t be. Inspiration abounds! Life never runs out of experiences to opine on. The problem occurs (I know that now) when I play safe on how to express these opinions. While others are bold and gutsy about a lot of issues, I’m not. I always have to rack my brains out to find the right and acceptable words to use for fear of reprisals. And when I can’t, I get frustrated, I stop.

There you go, that says a lot about me as a blogger. I have created my own ‘writer’s block’. When will I muster enough courage to tell it as it is?

Language barrier? Okay, I am lucky that in my home country, the medium of instruction is English and correct grammar  is strictly enforced. But, even so, English is not my first language. Finding the right words when writing means the right English version, too. It is easier to articulate one’s thoughts and emotions by using a familiar language or dialect. This is true to both writing and when in a normal conversation.

Therefore, in my attempt to get my point across clearly, my rough drafts get shelved for proofreading and editing again and again until they get dismissed and unpublished.

So maybe, this is the kind of writer/blogger I am:

I need time.

I hesitate to tell it as it is.

Perfectionist (if this is the right term) with words.

Does it matter if these traits are right or wrong if they do get me into writing?

Am I even a writer at all?